Being civil is the recognition that those you interact with are also human beings and deserve to be treated as such. It means striving to not demean or attack, to remain polite (yes, politeness is superficial, but it's also important), to listen, and to accept. It means being able to agree to disagree, and that the "other" isn't a moron because they disagree with you. Maybe they're wrong. Maybe you are. Are you a moron because you were wrong?
It doesn't mean never losing your temper; it means not treating people you're angry with like crap. You don't have to call someone an "idiot" to treat them like idiots. Being rough around the edges or using strong language isn't a problem, routinely telling people you disagree with to "fuck off" is – not because you used the word "fuck", but because it shows lack of respect.
In the end, it's all about treating other editors as peers, not as plebs that can't possibly understand your genius, or as adversaries. That is what the civility pillar is about: work with each other.
For creating and constantly tweaking CorenSearchBot, and especially for the clever "manual search" function, I hereby bestow upon Coren this da Vinci Barnstar. Don't spend all the prize money in one place! But|seriously|folks 02:57, 14 August 2007 (UTC)
I award you this barnstar for easing the burden of many editors and also for saving wikipedia from any litigation WriterListener 21:47, 12 October 2007 (UTC)
For your ability to act quickly and correctly in a difficult situation with potentially serious repercussions, I am delighted to award you this barnstar. Thank you for doing the right thing, and congratulations on getting it done fast and accurately. Accounting4Taste:talk 19:03, 3 December 2007 (UTC)
For not biting the noobs and being extremely nice to someone that kept recreating a page, I award you this star.mboverload@ 22:09, 1 September 2008 (UTC)
[[User:{{subst:PAGENAME}}]] has been identified as an Awesome Wikipedian,
and therefore, I've officially declared today as {{subst:PAGENAME}}'s day!
For being such a beautiful person and great Wikipedian,
enjoy being the Star of the day, dear {{subst:PAGENAME}}!
For all your hard work in helping the site a better, more welcoming environment. Your ArbCom work thus far has been outstanding, and I sincerely regret opposing you. Keep up the good work - you're a fantastic arb. Master&Expert (Talk) 05:36, 8 March 2009 (UTC)
For spending untold hours of your time keeping CSBot up and running and updated, without which we would be missing dozens of new copyright violations every day. VernoWhitney (talk) 13:46, 18 June 2010 (UTC)
Hi Coren! I'm afraid you and CSB will need to share this award, which I present to you both; for the bot's hard work dealing with copyvio issues, and your hard work in creating the bot and all the other things you do around Wikipedia! ROBERTMFROMLITALK/CNTRB 00:31, 20 October 2010 (UTC)
Congratulations on your years of service to Wikipedia. It is unfortunate that this year's wave of anti-incumbency swept away one of the most distinguished members of ArbCom. Kiefer.Wolfowitz 21:27, 18 December 2011 (UTC)
Hi Coren! A special thanks in helping the sockpuppet investigation go smoothly and efficiently well and in identifying more unknown sockpuppets with the aid of CheckUser tools. Thanks a lot for defending and protecting Wikipedia :) Regards and Happy Editing! TheGeneralUser (talk) 22:47, 18 July 2012 (UTC)
Thank you for doing what needed to be done. Hopefully, it won't have to be permanent, but somebody had to put a stop to the nonsense. AutomaticStrikeout 15:40, 10 November 2012 (UTC)
The ability to recognise that one has made an error, admit it, correct it and apologise, is probably one of the most valuable qualities any admin can possess. Would that we had more like you. Yunshui雲水 08:31, 3 December 2012 (UTC)
